Ephesians 5:20-24 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Christ said that man is the head of the home which mean that he becomes the spiritual leader of that home. Christ will hold him accountable for what takes place in the home. The man is to provide for his family and protect the family. He is not the boss!
The woman has her role in the marriage as well. She is his help mate, which means she helps him, support and encourages him. She is not a door-mat for her husband. He is not to walk all over her. But he is to be her spiritual leader. He must be concern about her spiritual growth in Christ. Just like she should be concern about his spiritual growth.
The husband is to be the bread-winner now I know that many of us don’t see this as being possible because of the way things are in society. Now a days you have both spouses working outside the home to make it work. And there is nothing wrong with it but understand even with both of you working your husband is the head. He is the leader of that home. You both share in the responsibilities.
When we step out of our roles and take on the other person role in the marriage, we are rearranged God’s design for the home. When you have decisions that must be made in the home both spouses are to sit down and talk about it. If the two of you don’t come to any decision at all or you find yourself arguing over it. The best thing to do is agreed to pray over the matter and let God show you both how to handle it.
Understand no marriage is perfect. It requires much work all the time. We are going to make mistakes but in our mistakes never ever step out of your role that God has placed for marriage. Because the moment you do you are headed for trouble; trouble you aren’t ready for. This is why we have people ready to quit and give up on their marriage.
Ladies please understand submitting is your head covering which means you are covered. Now when you come from that covering you are not protected. I know marriage is hard it’s not always easy but one thing marriage is not and that is “GREY” God has a divine plan for marriage and we who are His children must follow that plan.
Notice how in the verse Jesus tells us to submit to one another, it’s not just the woman who are to submit. God said submit to one another.