Marriage

Wives Love your Husband…Ephesians 5:22-23
We as wives must learn to speak well of our husbands.

 30 days, I challenge you do what 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 which says,

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1.    When your hubby gets up in the morning, greet him with a hug and kiss.  As him how did he sleep that night and if he got rest. Every since me and my husband has been married we always greet with a hug and kiss, and I ask him every morning how was your sleep, I want to know if my husband has gotten enough rest so that I will know how he will handle the day. When you hug make it a meaningful one, don’t just do it for for a split second but feel the warmth.
2.    While you are at work or if you are a stay at home wife, call your hubby once throughout the day and let him know that you was thinking of him. (Don’t give him the run down of all the things which are happening in the house like, the children and etc) when you do this it will et him know that you was thinking of him. And it’s a kind gesture as well.
3.    Do something extra special for him, every woman knows what her husband likes so be creative, try making one of his favorite dishes, do something he likes, but never would of expected you to do it. Men love it when we surprise them, send him a flower once in awhile, or get him a card for no other reason but to say I love you. Remember there should never be a special reason to do things like this other then to say I love you.
4.    Greet your husband at the door with a kiss, if your in the kitchen when he comes home in let him know how excited you are to see him because you missed him. But don’t start off with how bad your day was but allow him to unwind first before you tell him about your bad day. Remember no one once to hear all the bad things until they get a chance to unwind from the day.
5.    Part-take in at least one of his hobbies he enjoys. When you were dating you found yourself being interested in at least one of his hobbies often times when we get married we forget about those times. It’s time to go back and revisit ladies.
6.    Pray for your spouse everyday, we know what our husband needs, so start by praying for guidance, strength and wisdom and understanding. Every day you man walks out that door to go to work the enemy is always prepared to tempt him with everything, and yes that includes other woman and woman on his job. As the saying goes, you take care of hubby then you never have to wonder if someone else is doing your job.
7.    Be aware of his spiritual growth make sure he”s relationship with Jesus is not altered, make sure he’s not falling away from being the spiritual leader of that home. Women let’s be more about the Proverbs 31 woman for God has already laid out the plan as to how we are to be that help mate towards our husbands.
8.    Have devotions together,  and as a family, a family who prays together really does stay together. You both draw your strength from one another,  you can’t fight those fiery darts if you’re fighting each other instead of building one another up.
9.    Make time for date night, (remember how you dated before you got married and you both looked forward to it, you still can have date night even with kids, get a sitter, you must keep that flame alive. Remember how you both gaze into each others eyes and have those talks you use to have before you got married? Couples must keep those other conversation alive that you once shared before you got married other wise you find out that your getting bored because all you talk about it the house, bills and family. Discuss your goals and things you want to achieve and places you want to go, just like before, nothing changes except you now can share them together. And please, keep the family issues separate while your on your date night,this night is about you two.
10.    Always speak well of your husband to other people even if he’s not doing what you want never let ill words come from your mouth because others will hear this and have negative thoughts about the two of you and your marriage needs people who actually honor marriages. Even when you are at home don’t allow yourself to speak negative for the moment you do you have spoken it in the atmosphere and Satan plays on our words to use them against us later. Don’t become a victim to him.
11.    Be careful as to what friends you have in your marriage you always want people who will  respect your marriage and the vows, because not everyone who hangs out with you and your spouse is praying for your marriage. Not everyone cares what happens to your marriage. And never have single people as your friends you would always want to have married couples as your friends. There is a good reason why I say this, because having a single male or female as your friend has nothing in common with you for you are married and they are single. Remember that.
I guarantee if we would begin by doing things like this everyday in our marriages then we will become to appreciate how God has design the marriage home to be, we will learn to be better help mates we would be better at developing our strengths and taking care of our home as woman and our relationship with Jesus would be much more closer then it is now.
We as woman need to know how to love our husbands like Christ love the church which means in our humanism we aren’t capable of that type of love, we love with conditions and we need God to show us each day how to love our husbands. If we follow God’s plan then we will not only please God but our husbands will learn to love us the way God loves us they will know how to care for us and know how to be that man of God we as Godly woman have been looking for, for years…AMEN?
Are you ready to give it a try? Start today, my list I kept short but I am sure you can think of other things to add to the list but most important about this list is each day as we read chapter 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 we need to ask Jesus to show us how to love like His word says, amen. Alright ladies let’s begin,
I look forward to your testimonies and know God is going to do great things for the both of you in this marriage. One thing I will say and that is this, don’t become discouraged because it’s a process and it doesn’t happen over night, OK!
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15 thoughts on “Marriage

  1. This is a great list sis.. I pray that my husband will one day respond to this… lol

    My list is totally opposite.. I have to leave him alone. I have to stop myself from giving him hugs and kisses in the morning and asking him how he slept.. if I do that it makes him grumpy. Totally opposite from me.. but opposites attract! I have to really work at alot of these, trying to figure out what he likes, even after 15 years! Not meaning it as talking bad about him either… same way when people ask if I cook for him. It’s not that he doesn’t like my cooking, he just doesn’t eat here. And when he does its at midnight after I am in bed. lol So I do my best to just greet him at the door with a hug and kiss and make sure the front room is clean!

    1. You know Nicole you and I talked and prayed about this so I won’t put our talk on here but don’t give up. I am still praying not only for your marriage but all marriages across the globe. Trust God and keep the faith that God’s Divine will be done.

  2. Hi Desiree, such an important topic but not talked about much! I appreciate your open heart to share your personal moments. More to often the excitement is in the big wedding in front of an audience. When the vows are said, the vows began to fade. Real living starts after the camera is off.

    One important spirit is missed. Jesus, we often forget that the vows were not just to our mate but most importantly, to God. Often He is left out. I say to all married couples, always date each other, at least once a month with just the two of you. It doesn’t take nothing costly. Little love notes and something new. Like a new recipe. Pray together and fellowship at a local church together too.

    My pet peeve is at least at a minimal have yourself looking nice when he comes home…

    I have enjoyed. Added you to my blogroll. I will be returning.

    Shenine

    1. thank you so much Shenine for your comment and joining. Jesus is the center of any marriage and if we don’t have Him the center we can’t expect it to work..AMEN look forward to you coming back soon

  3. Just before Easter, my husband was diagnosed with the deadly disease, Melanoma. The good news is, and by the Grace of God, that it didn’t spread. From the first moment of his diagnosis, I prayed ceaselessly. I envisioned healthy, happy lymph nodes and used the power of the Holy Spirit to take my prayers to the Father. If I have ever taken my husband for granted, I never will again. However long we are given, our marriage and his well being are my priority. Our marriage and the love that unites us is surely blessed! There isn’t a day that goes by that he doesn’t know just how much his wife loves him.

    1. What a beautiful story of love you shared. I especially like when you said if I have ever taken my husband for granted, I never will again….that touched my heart…thanks for sharing and I thank God for the healing…

  4. DESIRAY I HAVE STUMBLED ACROSS YOUR SITE ON GOOGLE AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED TO READ WHAT YOU POST I WAS GIVEN A SECOND CHANCE TO MARRY MY CHILDHOOD SWEET HEART IT WILL BE MY FIRST AND HIS SECOND HE HAS ALWAYS HAD A WAY OF FINDING ME THROUGH A MUTUAL FRIEND THAT WE BOTH KNOWS HE LIVES IN GEORGIA AND I LIVE IN MIAMI BUT GOD HAS CONNECTED OUR HEARTS I AM VERY INTERESTED IN YOUR PAGE I WILL TRY TO GET ON IT INSTEAD OF GETTING ON GOOGLE I WILL STILL GET ON GOOGLE AND I WILL GET ON YOUR PAGE AS WELL IT HAS TRULY BEEN A BLESSING TO ME THANK YOU AGAIN AND I WILL SHARE THIS WITH MY SISTERS IN CHRIST

    1. Pamela thank you so very much, your words has been a blessing to me. I never know who I am blessing when God gives me something to say. Sometimes I wonder if I am even touching hearts, but it’s in these moments right here that someone comes along and tells me and then I say Lord you already know who is being touched by these words on this site. Again thanks for following me on google+ and now on here. Look forward to the fellowship. Please do feel free to share with your friends this site as well as the podcast that I do as well. God bless you.

      1. HELLO DESIRAY I WANT TO LISTEN TO YOU BUT I DON’T HAVE A PODCAST AND MY EMAILS IS GIVING ME PROBLEMS LOGIN IN BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER CHANGED MY PASSWORD AND MY DESKTOP COMPUTER IS BROKEN IS THERE ANY OTHER WAY I CAN LISTEN TO YOUR MESSAGE BESIDES PODCAST BY THE WAY I JUST MAILED OUT SOME COPIES OF THE TWENTY ONE DAY CHALLENGE TO MY HUSBAND TO BE IN GEORGIA AND HE IS PASSING THEM ALONG KEEP US IN PRAYER AS WELL AS I WILL KEEP YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN PRAYER ALSO I PRAY THAT YOUR WALK WITH GOD GROWS GOD BLESS YOU

      2. You don’t have to have podcast in order to listen. You can use your cell phone or computer to listen. I will email you the link as well as placing the link below this way you can listen at any time you want to. That prayer challenge that I posted I want you to know that before I could even post it I had to take that challenge myself. God showed me much things and how to be very specific on the things I pray about.

        Here is the link to the shows I have done on Spreaker
        http://www.spreaker.com/user/4662476

        Thank you for the prayer and same to you and yours. God bless you for the connection.

  5. Hi Desiray!

    I’m a newlywed, so it is nice for me to read these things and to always remember them! Thanks for the great post. These are the kind of messages I am trying to convey in my blog Diary of an Army Wife

    1. Jennifer congrats on your marriage. I look forward to reading your blogs. We all need encouragement in our marriages. I am just happy to hear that you found my postings to be an encouragement to you.

  6. I really love this post. Number 8 and 9 are really speaking to me now. mY HUSBAND AND I have been married for a little over 1 year and its been a challenge! First time having to pay and keep up with bills is one of them and we’ve been overwhelmed at times by this. I can admit its taken a lot from our marriage. This is very solid and wise Godly teaching for married women; which can be hard to find. I would just add something about looking good/ and keeping yourself for your husband to the list. Mens needs are different then womens. But that may be better for another post on sex. haha. Blessed! -Sister Thania

    1. My dear thank you for the comment and also for sharing your story. Marriage is never easy it takes allot. The reason why I was able to write this piece was because my husband and I had some struggles and during that time, it was difficult, I won’t even pretend it was easy. But it was the Love that we had for one another that kept us working through those issues.

      We prayed allot together and the Lord showed him and I so much through that first year.

      As far as the piece you mentioned about sex, I did do a piece on that topic but it was a verbal speaking because it was allot that was said there was no way I could of made it a blog in typing all of that up.

      Please do sign up for daily devotions and come back again anytime.

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